This article is a case study about a young client struggling with anxiety. It discusses how he and his therapist found a way to communicate with one another through the use of drawing therapy.

Jake and his overwhelming anxiety

Jake was too young to be one of my clients, unfortunately he was also too old to fit into the paediatric mental health team and the teenage support group for anxiety was overwhelmed.

 Jake had a bad experience and didn’t trust therapists

Jakes mother  described a boy who every morning thought he would get up and go to school and by 9:05 had failed.  He was then stressed all day about having to go to school the next day and couldn’t concentrate on his schoolwork at home, even if his granny sat and helped him

The start of CBT therapy

Jake`s mother and I agreed not to tell the services that I was working with him in case it stopped him from obtaining more appropriate input.  We also agreed she would sit in on the sessions as a silent observer.

Jake didn’t say much either apart from telling me how he’d been let down by other therapists who had promised a phased return to school with him in control – but this hadn`t happened. I told Jake that I didn’t really care whether he went to school or not, all I cared about was helping him get through the time period until he felt ready to do so.

I did the standard CBT things using Zoom at Jakes pace, he was very anxious before our sessions and quite often came into therapy feeling upset, and sometimes he cancelled, hiding in his bedroom.

How drawing therapy became part of his CBT

Once I discovered Jake could draw things changed.  Using the shared whiteboard he could depict his feelings and could use the subsequent image to explain what he meant.

Several of these drawings changed things greatly for both of us, the first picture showed how he felt about anxiety and the treatment of it.  He drew a very cross looking person with steam coming from his ears.  After we discussed it  I asked him whether he wanted to continue working with me.  There are no words to describe the rewarding feeling I had as I watched smiley faces prop up on my computer screen as he drew, miles away, in his own sitting room.

CBT Drawings to express and understand anxiety

Today Jake and I talked about anxiety, or rather I talked and he drew. I thought I knew what it felt like to be anxious, I’d been anxious before exams, been a bit stressed if I didn’t know the outcome of a dilemma, and I’m scared of the dark. Anxiety is huge, scary, unstable and destructive. Jake drew his “ monster” on the shared whiteboard.

The first thing I noticed was the Boris hairstyle – my interpretation, Jake just wanted to make it look stupid. It wasn’t very big either but had a foot in the door. The front door which was open because the anxiety had come with a reasonable-sounding request. Once Jake allowed the anxiety in it talked and talked to him and even when he tried to make it leave by another door it never stopped telling him something was wrong. In the end, Jake simply stopped opening the door.

He wasn’t frightened though, his anxiety was stupid, annoying and persistent, but never scary, destructive or unstable.

I guess anxiety is just a word, but a picture is a thousand words.

AUTHOR: Emily Cobb

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy

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There was a little empath named Sharon, who had witnessed many troubled times as a young girl, teenager, and young woman. She realised at an early age that she had special powers: a desire and the skills to help other people feel better.

Her dream was to reach the top of the Magic Mountain where she would achieve her Diploma in Counselling Skills. From here, she would be able to see far and wide across the land, and she felt she could reach out to help others as a qualified Counsellor. But first, she must climb to the first level of the Magic Mountain by successfully completing the COSCA Certificate in Counselling Skills. The little empath set off on her first quest.

The COSCA cave

She found a reputable course provider with excellent reviews and travelled far, into deepest darkest east end Glasgow. There, she was met by her two empath Godmothers, Alison and Claire. They were both very wise in the ways of counselling and they were to be her guides. Through the glass doors, and into the COSCA cave, she met a lovely group of other empaths. She was soon to realise that they too, had the same special powers to help other people. Very soon, the little empath felt right at home.

Lots of learning

For the next ten weeks there was a lot of learning to be done. The little empath thought she had always been a good listener, but, working more intensely with her supportive triad she realised there was much, much more to it. Always the one to give advice, she saw that she must quietly listen with a range of attending and responding skills. She must not ‘fix’ things and instead, must truly be there with her speaker. After all, the answers lie within. It was just her job to help the speaker reveal them. She loved using the Guided Fantasy and has used this back in her own kingdom with the young people she teaches. They were then able to uncover some feelings they had not known were there, and were also able to put a name to an emotion that they were unable to talk about in traditional one to one discussion.

The wise Godmothers

Soon, the wise Godmothers bestowed another gift. In order to reach level one of the quest, the little empath must truly know in her heart the core principles of counselling: Acceptance, Genuineness and Empathy. Luckily her magic powers allowed her to feel empathy for others readily. Sometimes this was a bit too much and she knows she has to protect herself in order to not feel drained and be of more use to her speakers.

Remember to relax

Genuineness was interesting to learn about as the little empath thought she came across as open and interested. However, her study of her recorded video clip revealed a stern face and closed body language. Her supportive triad said she just looked professional and was maybe a little nervous in front of the camera, and that she didn’t look stern to them at all. The little empath was relieved to hear this as she really wanted to look as genuine as she felt inside. She made a decision to remember to relax her body and face and to never cross her legs or lace her fingers again.

Acceptance

Acceptance was the real stumbling block as her deeper judgements of others were revealed. The Godmothers gave out tiny pieces of folded paper, but they held monumental discussion points. Emotive names were inside and this made the little empath shudder. Could she honestly put her triggers to one side and help the horrible trolls or the wicked witches of the world? After all, they have feelings too and someone has to help them. A lot of self-reflection is needed to answer this, and suddenly for the first time, the Diploma at the top of the Magic Mountain seemed out of reach. Would she ever get to the top to achieve something she was once so certain of?

Disaster struck

Then, one day, disaster struck! The land was cursed with a virus and all the empaths and the Godmothers were banished to self-isolation and social distancing. What was to become of them? Luckily, the Godmothers found a way to sprinkle magic Zoom dust on all the laptops and the empaths rejoiced as they were reunited by way of digital media. Hurrah!

The little empath misses the energy of her tribe in person, but is thankful for the mystical power of technology to help her continue in her quest.

How things changed…

In the beginning of Module 2 of the Certificate in Counselling Skills, the little empath and her tribe had settled into a ‘stay at home’ routine. She could not believe how quickly the sands of time had passed in the last ten weeks, and she settled down to review how that had been for her.

Having spent fifteen long weeks staying safe at home, the little empath also conducted all of her full time work as a teacher online. In addition to the COSCA course she also committed to another online distance learning course. The amount of screen time was proving to be a challenge for her and left her feeling a little overwhelmed at having to be such an integral part of the digital world. Sometimes she feared that the prophecies were coming true and that human and machine would indeed merge as one. She made a promise to herself to allow more study time for the next module and try new ways of learning to help overcome the intensity she felt around being online so much.

Positive energy…

Her new triad provided a calm and positive energy from the beginning. She loved watching the confidence of her triad grow with each skills practice as she herself even started to feel more relaxed watching her recordings. After consulting the ‘feelings wheel’, she could now identify with a feeling of optimism rather than being critical of herself. Progress already?

The cycle of change…

The middle of Module 2 was proving to be more in-depth in terms of content and discussion. Complex topics around sexuality, feelings, the grief cycle, change, values and ethics sparked lots of interesting discussion for the tribe. The cycle of change and the change curve were insightful tools for the little empath to consider. It helped her see some reasons why she had not been able to make the changes she wanted in her life, and she was eager to try this out for herself, and also within a counselling approach. The little empath likes to think about change from all possible angles and this can sometimes leave her feeling exhausted about all the ‘what if’s. She found the motivation grid very useful for this and has used it to make a decision about looking for another job in a different school. This gave her clarity and more confidence in her decision and she was thankful to her godmothers for bestowing these gifts.

A wave of emotions…

Sexuality was a topic that opened up a wave of emotions for the little empath. She realised that a wicked witch had tried to poison her mind with untruths in the past around what it meant to be a sexual being. By challenging her thoughts, she uncovered deep-rooted feelings that she had forgotten about. While saddened by this at first, she now sees it as a positive as she has been able to look back at her changed attitudes more deeply and this will hopefully help her to be more genuine and empathetic in a counselling approach.

Time to reflect…

The ending of Module 2 was mixed emotions for the little empath as she was invited to consider how to say goodbye to her triad. Following what felt like a more intense part of the course the triad had time to discuss how they felt and what progress they had made. Through this safe space the little empath realised that while she felt on one hand that the module went by so quickly, she also discovered that she had soaked up so much information that it was likely to be slow burner for her as she allowed herself to revisit the theory and reflect on how it has affected her personally as well as in a counselling approach.

Looking forward to a two-week break to recharge, the little empath knows that another beginning is just around the corner in the form of Module 3 and she is eager to explore the content with her tribe and another new triad.

The End

By Sharon Kirman

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy

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There is so much noise.  It is deafening.  Communication is in overload.  We have a global catastrophe here and now.

I invite you to stop, pause for a moment and consider your life, your presence in humanity and your capabilities just now and as we go forward. You may not be unwell, you may not know somebody in hospital, you may not know someone who is ill.  You may feel this will not impact on you or you will get through it because you are young or you have a healthy lifestyle or you are not taking this seriously for a variety of other reasons.  You may be infected, you may fall ill, and you could die.  At the same time conversely, those in higher risk categories due to cancer treatments/therapeutic drugs or older age may come through it.  We do not know who will survive and who will not, and this is the reality which we each must face.

Come together, respect each other

I am invested in the outcome for me, my family, my relatives, my friends, my neighbours, for you, for your family, your relatives, your friends and the future of our human race.  This is so much bigger than just you and me.  This is about us coming together now, respecting each other and offering our strengths whatever they are for the greater good.  I believe that you  have  something to offer from a smile to a kind word shared,  to your time, skills, knowledge and personal resources with a willingness to learn,  giving freely for no other reason than the wish to contribute of yourself and help make a difference to the outcome today tomorrow and when it finally ends whatever that will look like.   I believe in your capacity to put aside your own fears and issues and focus on the strengths you have in going forward to enable healing and compassion, sharing and supporting each other.   Already, this is happening, it is alive and growing.   We are connecting, recognizing it is down to each of us and that each of us can make a difference.

Be kind to yourself

For those of you who are struggling for personal reasons or reasons out with your control, be kind to yourself and reach out for help enabling a friend or a professional to share your pain and help you accept yourself for who you are just now.   Today, may not be your time to shine, but your time will come and then it will be your turn to share your strength and acceptance for another.  I cannot within these words, reach out to everyone and I know there are those who feel the situation is out of their control and this may be.   Take what control you can back into your being and space no matter how small that is.   Do what you need to do without causing harm.  Consider your strengths and put them to good use.  Identify the tasks that you need to address and deal with them one by one.  Call out your unmet needs and share and they will be met.  Trust in humankind.

Reflect, reassess

From operating as an individual to operating as a community, and we can stop and reassess what we are doing.  What has got us to a place with too few ventilators, not enough PPE, too few drugs, people not self-isolating/social distancing, funerals with no one to attend them, frontline staff at risk of dying.  This is for analysis and but not just now.  In seeing the problems, we can identify solutions which are realistic and achievable.  We need big thinking and a joined-up approach locally, nationally and globally.  We need to sustain an effort for this acute phase and going forward into a more chronic ongoing stage.  

I ask you to Identify your strengths and play to them. 

• Those who can coordinate, coordinate
• Those who can innovate, innovate
• Those who can dream, dream
• Those who can labour, labour but do it now.

Start today, this is not an unscheduled holiday for some and a crisis for the few who are fearfully fulfilling their professional role whilst inwardly fearing for their lives and the lives of their families.  What can you do for you, your loved ones, your neighbours, for your country men and women, for humanity?  This is not a dress rehearsal. 

What you can do

Consider your mortality.  Look at death in the eye and hold onto life.  Let us thrive in a new way, living together compassionately and kindly.  

Our shared vision and positive coordinated action can make a positive difference for humankind. It is not too late.

Now is the time.   Look after your neighbour and friends as you would like your own family members to be looked after.  Who are our neighbours and friends?  They are all of humankind.

I am a mother of 5 young people, a wife, a daughter, a sister, an aunt, a cousin, a friend, a neighbour, a citizen of the world.  I am also a nurse and a trainee counsellor.

By Siobhan Campbell – year 1 diploma student

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As Therapists or other professionals move further along their journey of personal development, self-awareness and ultimately work towards self-actualisation it might be fair to say that we become less vulnerable. In relation to the vulnerability/stress model this leaves us more predisposed to taking on higher levels of stress, none more so in the stories we hear from our clients. Of course, some client’s stories touch us more than others and what of the ones about abandonment, neglect, abuse, trauma, emotional deprivation? It is our job but also in our nature to empathise with our client’s. With regards to empathy, the paradoxical theory often stands up in that our greatest strength is also our greatest weakness.

Dealing with Vicarious Trauma as a therapist

We empathise with the hard end of human suffering on a consistent basis. For some Therapists/Professionals, this might be daily. This often comes at a price. At ACT Counselling Services we often hear stories from colleagues of ‘taking the client home with me,’ which of course means thinking about the client in one’s own time. We also hear stories of colleagues having nightmares, rescue fantasies etc. A lot of professionals will take issues of vicarious trauma to Clinical Supervision and whilst this might well be helpful there is so much more that can be done.

Can we learn from Buddhism?

Traditional Buddhism has been a long advocate of the ‘suffering’ involved in being a human being, yet Buddhist Monks appear to remain compassionate and optimistic. What is their secret? Furthermore, can we as Therapists/Professionals learn from Buddhist Monks in order to offset Vicarious Trauma? Also, are there more practical steps that can be taken by Therapists/Professionals and their organisations to create a culture that protects us from the impact of Vicarious Trauma?

Do you want to learn more about Vicarious Trauma?

To find out more about the above and answers to the questions posed, visit our CPD Events page on this website and register for the ‘Vicarious Trauma’ CPD event scheduled to be delivered in Dunblane on Friday the 25th of August 2017. You can call us here at ACT Counselling and CBT Services in Glasgowon 0141 554 0838 or contact us online here.

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